April is often an unpredictable month with budding tulips followed by a fresh blanket of snow. I notice my moods seem to mirror the twists and turns of these weather patterns as I grieve the recent loss of my beloved furry family member, Wrigley.
While the grief of Wrigley’s death is new, the unpredictable nature of grief feels familiar. The ongoing adjustment to slowly losing vision has shown me that no one feeling is final. Grief becomes both an expected and unexpected experience.
In many ways, April feels like a metaphor for life, reminding us that change is always in the air. With change comes loss, with loss comes grief. We long for what has been lost. This is indeed the human condition.
In my work as a grief counselor, I know that grief comes in waves. In my experience as a grieving human, I have felt the push and pull of these waves. Although grief is part of the human condition, the way we each grieve differs. There is no “right way” to experience grief.
As April comes to a close, I am grateful for what this season teaches us about change. I find myself simply sitting with what arises, moving with and through each emotion. These feelings can be uncomfortable, so it is tempting to resist them, but as Sadhguru says, “if we resist change, we resist life.”